It is often said that you are either coming out of a storm, in a storm, or just getting out of a storm. Wherever you are on this spectrum, most of us are really sick of the rain in our lives. If we're not careful, we will even miss the sunshine because we are so worried about a gloomy forecast.
So we cry.
Maybe not with tears, but in actions, or a lack of faith in ourselves or others.
There are some who say we shouldn't spend our time crying--that it's a waste since nothing can come of it.
I say GO FOR IT.
Not too long ago, I entered a contest (a writing contest, of course)--an act of deliberate confidence in my ability to strengthen my craft by letting others "hear" my voice. Part of the application process included writing a cover letter that more or less, simply answered the question, "Who and why are you?"
I wrote a little something, attached it to my entry, and moved on. Around that time, life got a little crazy.
Weeks passed by, and the craziness of life started to latch on. I kept listening to that ever present voice in my head that always yells, "GET UP!" anytime I start to sink. And I did.
But that doesn't mean that I didn't still cry like a baby.
One day, though, I was scrolling through my writing portfolio and I came upon that contest cover letter.
I read it. Read it again. And then, read it one more time.
And then I began to laugh.
See, we are truly the only ones who can tell ourselves WHO we are and WHY we are. But we have to take time to figure it all out first.
Many times, that comes after the tears have fallen.
I find that when I cry, my mind is racing a million frames a minute, replaying things that are wrong, right, fair, or unfair. Everything plays out like a movie, with conflicts, a climax, rising and falling action...ALL OF THAT.
But guess what? After all of that has run across my mental screen, I am able to breath and begin mapping a resolution.
I have found that both survival, peace, and success all stem from the same place: the mind. As humans, most of us have not found success in preventing negative thoughts from entering into our psyche. However, the key, in my opinion, is learning how to control them: Organize them. Unpack them. DISCREDIT THEM.
So cry, honey, cry. Open yourself to the "why" behind the sadness that tries to manifest itself in your day-to-day.
And then, get to work...cause ain't nobody got time to waste.